tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3156449337817322945.post6378010495325940414..comments2011-09-01T11:20:07.858-04:00Comments on An occasional day...: Kinder verteuernValeriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11839030134789214532noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3156449337817322945.post-52841085413054406482008-02-05T05:50:00.000-05:002008-02-05T05:50:00.000-05:00Summer- I don't know what they'd do to you, maybe ...Summer- I don't know what they'd do to you, maybe you'd have to take your kids to the consulate before you spank them :) I agree, spanking isn't always the best solution, I just find it symptomatic that it's not even an option here. As far as what I do? Beat my head against the wall in my room at night. Just kidding. I try to tell her with my voice and incorrectly parsed words that I am serious and that she needs to obey me, other than that... it's a constant struggle trying to figure out what to do or say. She is learning, however, that I'm not going to let her get away with so much, and that is very slowly making things a bit easier.Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11839030134789214532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3156449337817322945.post-38805169958971654042008-02-02T23:02:00.000-05:002008-02-02T23:02:00.000-05:00Wow spanking is illegal? Interesting. I wonder if...Wow spanking is illegal? Interesting. I wonder if they would arrest an american in germany for spanking? I'll have to remember that if we visit. <BR/>We don't use spanking much mostly because it hasn't proven to work real well with Indy's temperament as she is much more prone to respond to being taken out of a situation (time-outs) or having privileges taken away. I would fail as an au pair in Germany as it is so out of my nature to allow children to be indulged. I have seen it so many times working in day care and truth be told the indulged children show so many signs of insecurity and act out far more often for attention. I believe kids need boundaries and thrive on them so being indulgent is cruel on some level. You are wise to think of these things now and let them marinate until you face them with your own kids. What I learned in having my own is that it is far easier to work out principals for the ideal on someone else's children because you are not nearly so emotionally invested so when it comes to your own it will be easier to stand your ground in knowing what you want to give your children even if in the moment all your emotions want to do is indulge them. <BR/>How do you deal with discipline as the nanny in a house with such indulgence? When I nannied I had the parent's behind me 100% in setting boundaries for the kids and enforcing them. Without that I would have gone mad!IndianaJoneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02197596501737545856noreply@blogger.com